To all the boys that think I owe them something

Dear previous/current/future sexual partners,

It should go without saying, but apparently it needs to be said. In no way, shape or form should you think that you have the right to force your sexual intentions onto me—especiallywithout my consent or some form of mutual agreement. I am not yours for the taking, at your disposal whenever you feel like it. If I tell you that I’m not interested, don’t try and convince me otherwise. I’m a big girl, I can make up my own mind as to what I do or do not want to do.

One day might be different from another. We could have flow, I might be feeling a spark and become engrossed in a conversation which may allude to the idea of us meeting for a drink, going on a date and, yes, potentially even hooking up. But then another day may come around—where I realise that it was a heat of the moment feeling, and suddenly I’m starting to feel uncomfortable. I may have a gut feeling, alarm bells may start to ring, and I may decide to rebuke past feelings/ideas in order to appease my current state of mind. 

Don’t try and convince me otherwise.

I am an extremely sexual, open and liberal person, and when I am comfortable with you, you will know because I will make that notion very, very clear. If there is a mutual, respectable spark between us, you will know. If I feel completely open with you, you will know. 

But. If I tell you that I’m not feeling the best, if I tell you that I’m not in the mood anymore, if I tell you that I’m just blatantly not interested, don’t try and change my mind. Because if you do, you will be part of the ever-growing problem. Respect me that I am able to change my mind without question. Respect me that I don’t have to give you a reason why. Respect me that when I start feeling the need to defend myself (not that I should), I’m not an “angry feminist”, I’m a pissed off chick that just wants you to leave her the fuck alone and stop thinking that you can behave this way and that it will just be okay. Fun fact: it’s not okay.

It’s pretty simple: if I say no, I mean no. 

I’m not trying to be a tease, I’m not trying to play games with you. I don’t want you. Period.

Yours sincerely x

P.S. Unsolicited dick pics not necessary. Thanks.